Correlations Between Avoidance in Intimate Relationships and Avoidance of Truth (or God)

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Correlations Between Avoidance in Intimate Relationships and Avoidance of Truth (or God)

1. Avoidance of Intimacy = Avoidance of Vulnerability = Avoidance of Truth

In human relationships, fear of intimacy often stems from a deeper fear: to be seen. Nakedly, wholly, and without control. This mirrors our existential avoidance of God—or of Truth itself—which also demands vulnerability.

> To surrender to love is to risk pain.
To surrender to Truth is to risk transformation.
Both threaten the fragile ego’s illusion of control.

People avoid intimacy in the same way they avoid divine or philosophical awakening: because both undo them. They expose the false self, shatter defensive constructs, and call for accountability. Both require a terrifying honesty—not just toward others or God—but toward the self.

2. Confirmation Bias in Love and Faith

Just as people cherry-pick truths to uphold their ideologies, they also cling to narratives in relationships—about themselves, their partners, or love itself—that shield them from growth or confrontation.

In romance:

> “I don’t believe in love.”
“No one can be trusted.”
“I’m better alone.”

In faith:

> “There is no ultimate meaning.”
“Science has disproven God.”
“If I don’t see it, I won’t believe it.”

These are not conclusions—they are defenses. Rooted not in reason but in past wounds, loss of hope, or fear of surrender.

3. Emotional and Intellectual Laziness in Both Realms

Both deep love and true belief require work—intellectual and emotional. They require:

Self-examination

Consistency

Sacrifice

Courage

The same person who cannot hold space for relational honesty is often the same person who avoids theological or philosophical depth. Shallow dating. Shallow faith. Shallow thinking. All born from the same soil.

4. Ideological Entrenchment = Relational Control

In relationships, controlling dynamics emerge when one refuses to deal with the discomfort of uncertainty or equality. In worldview, dogmatic materialism or spiritual bypassing are methods of controlling the existential chaos.

True love, like true faith, cannot be controlled.
Both must be entered into—and that means risk.

5. Ultimate Connectedness = Ultimate Union

Romantic union mirrors the deeper metaphysical yearning: to be fully known, and yet fully loved. The essence of both human love and divine relationship is the same—to be united, not absorbed; to be free, but tethered by choice; to be healed, but not erased.

Which is why avoidance of romantic intimacy often masks a deeper metaphysical avoidance:

> If I cannot trust another to love me as I am,
how could God?

This is why Divine Physics is not merely scientific or theological—it’s relational.
It speaks to the very core of why we pull away, hide, or rage against truth, love, and God.

Divine Physics: The Intersection of Faith, Science, and the Human Psyche
2nd Edition, v47
By William W. Collins
Available on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F4K4JDLD

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